Merry Christmas, Keep Your Expectaions Low, And Vent On Your Blog

by  AmoLaZucca  on YouTube 

The title of this post might have been

"What A Drag Clean Up Is After Christmas",

until I fell upon the first photo in this post.

It had a link to the song which I have put right under her picture.

The music is beautiful....

and the message slapped me in the face.

I needed it.

I can get to feeling sorry for myself.

I can bitch and moan.

And then something or someone reminds me.... 

how fortunate some of us are to have a turkey to cook for our families.

I have had some pretty crummy Holiday Seasons....

but it is my nature to.

The holidays get me to feeling 'raw'.

Yesterday I was driving with my top down,

it was a gorgeous day in sunny Boca Raton

 and I just started crying.

I am no Hallmark Card kid from a Hallmark Card family.

(Who is?)

It was something 

related to my expectations.

 It was a little thing that always happens

between my daughter and myself.

It is always the same old thing....

So why do I continually

expect a different outcome

the next time the same issue comes up?

There is a saying;

The definition of insanity is

 "Doing the same thing over and over, and expecting different results"

But I do.

I think I keep hoping things will be different.

I need to keep the focus on myself.

On my issues, on who I am, and what my actions are.

I need to lower my expectations.

And just love her....and let her go.

I don't mean let her go like

I don't care what she does or who she is,

but accept her for who she is.

(And lower my expectations)

Usually when I am having any kind of problem

it stems from how, and from where I am viewing the issue.

There are more people in this country

that are homeless and losing their homes than will be 'made public.'

They are not dealing with cleaning up after xmas.

They are not putting away all the precious xmas ornaments.

They are not dealing with all the garbage

from the xmas packages being gleefully torn open

last night or this morning.

They had no xmas dinner to clean up,

no xmas morning breakfast dishes to load in the dishwasher.

They gave their children nothing.

Maybe they found something in the garbage

that they cleaned up and wrapped in a shopping bag for their child.

Or if they were lucky....

they got something from " Toys For Tots'.

Think about that.

I need to.

I was able to do what I needed to this year.

I need to have gratitude.

It is so easy to forget what we do have in our lives.

Even if we do have 

THE LUXURY of cleaning up after xmas.

Bye Bye Christmas.

Until Next Year.....

Love you guys....and you know who you are XXX's

Renee Finberg 'TELLS ALL' in her BLOG.....
Interior Design, Palm Beach, Boca Raton,Ft.Lauderdale,Design Service, Window Treatments, TurnKey Interior Design Service,Paint selection, Floor-Plans,Online Interior Design,
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Gratitude Give Away

Three days before Christmas and I'm excited about still being a design blogger going into 2010. There were times this year that I was ready to throw in the towel and put my time and energy into something else....For a while I stopped writing. When I least expected it I'd receive emails that encouraged me...Again, I was excited to get back to my computer and write about one of the activities I absolutely love writing about....design.  I've met wonderful fellow bloggers, clients and a few vendors too. In saying that I'm offering a gratitude give away! Between now and New Year's Day you can enter the give away by leaving a comment telling us what you are grateful for as we enter 20010.... It's that simple.
The winner will be announced on my birthday, January 2nd.  This is a great give away selection.... Pillows from the Thomas Paul pillow collection. There are two 100% cotton pillows with a neutral canvas background and dark chocolate print. These pillows will the perfect accent  on a multiple of solid and patterened sofas.

Thomas Paul Pillow Collection - "Zinnia" & "Nest"

"A man is never so proud as when striking an attitude of humility." C.S. Lewis

When you read this I will be in training at a new job. It's not really a 'new' job , I worked for this company briefly 4 years ago.

My town, which by most peoples standards is a very pretty town, has a problem. It's the store fronts. They are emptying out....quickly. The downtown area , on the main street is not good.

As you might imagine, clients are not chasing me down the street. Nor are they throwing money at me for this spectacularly brilliant design brain of mine. I am going to work for a big family furniture business in South Florida. They have a lovely design department too.

So..........if it's Monday, I am in training.

Training to be a better me.... Am I humble? Humility allows me to remain teachable.

I am not the 'boss of me' anymore.

Was I ever ? Even when I worked for myself....I still really worked for who ever was writing the checks for the furniture and fabrics.

I have promised myself that I will have an attitude of gratitude for this opportunity. A good attitude is the only thing that will make me a success.

I think a lot of what went wrong with this country (myself included) is a lack of gratitude for what we had. We fell into the trap of thinking what we had was not enough. There was always something bigger and better right around the corner. We all know (especially a designer)...that bigger is not always better.

Renee Finberg 'TELLS ALL' in her BLOG.....
Interior Design, Palm Beach, Boca Raton,Design Sources, Window Treatments, Custom Design, Paint, Color Coordination, Online Interior Design, Floor Plans, All Custom,Gratitude, Humility